About Lisa
Lisa has always been curious about people. Why we feel the way we do, why certain experiences seem to stay with us, and how much of what we believe about ourselves influences the way we live, often without us even realising it.
Her interest in healing began over twenty years ago and has taken her in all sorts of directions. Her background includes counselling, mindfulness and meditation teaching, being a Teacher of Presence, non-dual therapy, energy healing and many years of working individually with clients. She's also run women's groups, workshops and retreats.
One thing that's long interested her is the relationship between our thoughts, emotions and the way we experience ourselves through the body.
Lisa needs to experience things for herself. She can understand something intellectually, but until she's actually felt it, it's still just an idea to her. That's partly why she's so drawn to exploring the body and our felt experience, rather than relying on understanding alone.
Lisa and Marcus have spent many years exploring the nature of consciousness, the sense of being a separate self and what we actually are. They've had countless conversations about free will, personality and the nature of our experience, with the occasional disagreement along the way!
Then one afternoon, while sitting in her hairdresser's chair, something quite unexpected happened.
The salon was busy, with all the usual noise and activity going on around her, but her experience of everything had completely changed. She watched her hand reach for a cup of tea, felt herself scratching her nose, heard her voice speaking. Breathing, moving, looking, listening... everything was happening quite naturally, but without the familiar sense of a 'me' directing any of it.
It's difficult to describe. Nothing about what was happening was unusual, except for the absence of that familiar sense of being someone at the centre of it all.
All those questions she and Marcus had discussed and occasionally disagreed over simply dropped away. What she'd previously understood intellectually about our true nature was now being experienced directly.
Following a profound personal loss in 2020, Lisa went through the most difficult period of her life. She learned what it really meant to sit with something rather than run from it. There was simply no other option, and what she found, in the middle of something genuinely unbearable, was that the sitting itself held her in a way that nothing else had.
The pain didn't go away. It doesn't. But her relationship with it changed completely. She began to recognise the difference between the pain itself and everything the mind could build around it: the memories, thoughts and stories that could make an already painful experience even harder to bear.
Years later, around a difficult anniversary, she was lying on the bed one evening when thoughts began arriving in waves, each one reaching back into the past and pulling her body a little tighter. She could feel the contraction building, layer upon layer, physical and emotional at once. It was the kind of spiral that, on another night, might have taken her under completely.
But this time she noticed what was happening. She could see the thoughts arriving and feel how each one was affecting her body.
She didn't try to stop it or push anything away. She simply stayed with what was happening, and as she did, the contraction began to dissolve. Within a few minutes, something that had felt tight and overwhelming had eased.
The grief was still there, as it always will be. But she'd experienced directly how the mind could take something already deeply painful and add so much more to it.
It's an understanding that's had a deep influence on both her life and her work.
When Lisa works with someone, she arrives with no fixed idea of where the conversation should go. She enjoys listening, getting to know the person in front of her and seeing what begins to emerge.
Her attention often goes naturally to what's happening in the body before we've even found the words for it. A tightening in the chest, a contraction in the stomach, an impulse to withdraw. These responses can be so familiar that we barely notice them, yet they shape how we experience ourselves and the world. Whether the conversation turns to a long-held belief, a physical sensation or the feeling of being a separate 'me', she stays close to how it's actually felt.
Lisa and Marcus bring different backgrounds to their shared work, exploring our true nature through self-enquiry and embodied exploration. Together, they offer online meetings, individual sessions, workshops and retreats.
Alongside their shared work, Lisa continues to see clients through her own independent practice at lisafellowes.com.